The Season For Change


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Hello, Third Trimester.

Well, we’re here in the last season of this pregnancy, and as the glow of the 2nd trimester fades and the angst and discomfort of the 3rd rolls on in, I can’t help but to really start thinking about how our lives are going to be changing, and really soon, as well.

Our little family is in a really comfortable place right now – Olive is independent and relatively easy as a child; and as a family we’re in a great groove and really in sync. We have our schedules down to a comfortable science. We have enough sleep, and we have enough fun. However, I know that as soon as this new baby arrives, all that will be up in the air, and we’re going to have to find a new normal. Our time will be more limited, our patience and tempers will be shorter. Hopefully, because this is our 2nd time around at this newborn thing we won’t be as blindsided about the lack of sleep. But who knows? I know we’re in for a rough few months. I am NOT GREAT without sleep.

In terms of my career, I’ve been the busiest I’ve ever been since starting this small lettering business. This year has found me consistently inundated with projects that not only stimulate me, but bring in revenue as well. Being able to contribute financially to my family as well as to my artistic AND business sensibilities has been extremely rewarding for me. I’ve always been a person who doesn’t just need a career, but thrives with one – so watching my work and business grow in the past 2 years has made me very proud of this achievement. And I want more. I want to grow more.

I recently had to sit down and plan out my maternity leave; and have already started to decline projects because I know I won’t be able to manage them pregnant or with a newborn.  As a person who is self employed, having that decision rest fully in my own hands can be a double edged sword. Taking too much time off and I feel like the momentum I’ve worked so hard for will just disappear;  however, taking too little time will leave me stressed out and resentful. What is the perfect amount of time to resume a feeling of balance? Where is the line drawn?

For a little while there, I really thought I had this Motherhood/Wife/Career thing worked out; but I realize how little I do know, and how much I still have to learn.  Everything is constantly evolving, and I just have to do my best to keep up.

Anyone who has advice out there – Moms of two, Working Mothers…anyone. I’d love to hear from you.

And as always, thank you for being here.

Photo Credit: Sadaf Murad Photo

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4 thoughts on “The Season For Change

  1. Emily Ear

    It will be pretty hard the first month but once you get a routine going again with 2 kids it will start to be your norm. It was hard for me but my kids are 1 1/2 years apart. Trying to work from home just part time was hard for me even with a full time nanny helping with my son.

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    1. Jody Post author

      Thanks Emily for your reply! I can’t believe you’re now a mama of two, where does the time go! I’m glad you’re getting in groove of things, and I hope I can get used to the “new normal” in just a month!!

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  2. Kiki

    Did you call me? 🤔
    2nd comes definitely easier not because we know what to expect but because we know what to let go.
    To me, it’s really difficult to find someone who understands how a working mom of two juggles the balance in life so rather than asking for their understanding, I work harder than anyone so they shut the hell up when I’m 30min late in the morning due to crazy chaos that they can’t even imagine 😎
    Also my husband is a huge support system for me. 👼🏻When I need to stay late at work or go on business trips, he says ‘I got the boys’ and that’s all I need. The relief that my partner understands what’s important to me and stands there for me…. Without his support, I could never been able to continue my career after 2nd baby. Period.

    Lastly, don’t think that it’s going to be crazy different from what you are currently doing. Not much of change from one to two. Zero to one is the huge step in life but from one to two? Crazier? Yes. Busier? Yes. But it will also bring out more laugher and joy to balance all out. Just hang 1,2 year. You’ll be able to catch all the sleep you missed after that. Good luck!

    XOXO,

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    1. Jody Post author

      I cannot get over the first line of your comment. “2nd comes easier not becuase we know what to expect but becuase we know what to let go”
      I don’t think I’ve ever thought about it like that before, and it really, really makes sense for me. I hope I know what, and how to let go again.

      Thank you so much for this advice. It honestly was priceless!! <3

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