Giving Her the Best Shot Possible


So Olive turned two a couple of months back. Ladies and Gents, I now have a tiny-adult running around my house. She has a sense of humor, strong preferences, and a huge vocabulary that still shocks me, everyday. Just a few days ago, Olive said, “Hey mama, I want to put the cheese on the rice, then eat it – okay? Not the veggie, not the milk, ok? Thank you!” I’m not sure when you started negotiating with me, young lady, but aren’t we a bit young for that?

With this surge in cognitive development, she’s also shown distinct affinities for certain activities over others . Olive is obsessed with music – and everything about it. She loves playing all instruments, is able to keep rhythm, sing over 30+ songs from memory, and she has just started to make up her own songs about her dolls. She has such an emotional connection with music, it’s fascinating – she once cried tiny tears because she felt that the song was sad. Really? Who is this kid?

So here I am, at 11pm at night, debating if I should put her in a music class. You know, to ‘harness’ or ‘nurture’ her love of music. I figure, if she has a natural ability for music, why not give her the opportunity to learn from others? Perhaps she’ll find so much joy in it, that she’ll find her calling. But on the other hand – instead of trying to nurture aspects that I know she has a talent for, shouldn’t I be putting her in classes for things she isn’t so great at, instead? For instance – physical stuff. Olive still has a lot of trepidation when she is approached with things like stairs or obstacles, and still really needs me to hold her hand. Should I not be putting her in classes like swimming, or gymnastics, or sports instead?

I don’t have the budget, nor the heart, to put her in every single class – but my goal here is to help Olive realize her potential, and to give her the best shot at life as possible. Because isn’t that what we’re all trying to do for our kids?

What would you do here? Would you focus on her strengths, or try to build up her weaker points? Any opinions here?

Happy Monday, everyone.


2 thoughts on “Giving Her the Best Shot Possible

  1. vickiho

    As a music-oriented person who is (still) not good with physical things like stairs, I look back and think that all those Tumble Tots classes my mom brought me to didn’t help. The music classes did, but I did hate them for the first couple of years. The really smart thing I have to give her credit for is when I started hating classical piano, she whisked me straight to pop piano classes, so I didn’t lose my interest in music.

    I don’t know what the right answer is for Olive, but if she’s like me, she’ll figure out the stairs in due time and she’ll be glad you got her going on (fun) music classes early. And I’ve seen the kid dance—I don’t think you have anything to worry about her kinetic abilities.

  2. Lisa

    I don’t have kids but I’ll tell you that when I was a kid, I was one of those that got shuttled around to a million different classes from music to sports to yes… calligraphy. :) Anyway, the classes I took that I had an interest, I can still remember. Those that I wasn’t as interested in… I found ways around, like pretending to practice the piano or talking to my friend instead of learning during tennis lessons. I think back now… a little wistful (and guilty!) but getting back to the subject at hand… IMHO I say, cultivate her interests. All humans (even the little ones) can only improve their weaknesses, when they buy in and want to improve their weaknesses. But hey… I don’t have kids, so I’m totally taking notes from you! :)


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