This “Mommy Wars” thing is a real. This term was first coined to describe the “us versus them” attitude of Stay at Home Moms and Career Moms; but really, it has become so much more. I feel like nowadays, everyone has an opinion about how you’re raising your child, and how you can do it better. And now that we’re all online, posting on Mom Forums/Mom Groups can sometimes get like this:
Yeah, I’m not kidding.
I found that clip yesterday while I was watching an old rerun of 30 Rock (I love you, Liz Lemon) and it just made me laugh out loud. And also, cry a little on the inside. Come on you guys, why are we all so judgmental about each other?
But more than me wanting us to be kinder to each other, I want everyone to take a moment to remember to be kind to ourselves, as well. If you’re anything like me, I often beat myself up about my own parenting – things that I do anyway, even though ‘the experts’ say I shouldn’t do them. For example, this past weekend, I had a lot of things to take care of in preparation for some guests we were hosting. I didn’t plan my time properly, so I let Olive watch a little more TV than usual while I scampered around the house. I felt so guilty that we didn’t take her out to play for that one day. I was upset that I wasn’t better organized, and that the TV was turning Olive’s brain to mush. It’s almost like that one additional hour of TV had erased every other good thing I had done for her in the past week. Or year.
Why do we give ourselves so much grief?
So, ladies – let’s all try to be kind. Be kind to the mom who doesn’t share your same opinions on sleep training, or vaccinations. But also remember to be kind to yourself – and remind yourself that you’re a good mom, and you’re just trying to make it through the damn day.