Confident Parenting


I’m not sure how many of you have read this recent parenting article floating around the web.

In summary, it basically says that I’m doing almost everything wrong.

It tells you that you can’t tell your child “Great Job!” when she has done something well, or that you can’t tell her to “be careful!” when you feel like she needs to be. Which, okay, I do all.the.time.

The article says that by following these steps, it will allow your child to be a more confident adult by fostering their sense of self worth. I understand certain aspects like never telling your child that you’re “on a diet” (women really don’t need more body issues, that I know) – but this article in turn has made me less confident about my parenting skills.

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Remember that old saying, “Mother Knows Best”? I constantly find myself wondering if my parenting instincts really are the best, and if I really do know what’s best for my child and her personality. I’m just grasping at straws, people!!! Making it up as I go. I wish I had more of a parenting “style”; but I guess my motto is just to LOVE her the best I know how.

The internet is such a black hole of too-much-information, ahhh!!

I hope everyone’s Monday is going well!

 

 

7 thoughts on “Confident Parenting

  1. awellstockedlife

    I feel the same way too (too much shame on parents these days articles)–I do think “mother knows best” we have instincts for a reason, right?! I think kids follow where we lead and if we are leading a good life they (fingers-crossed) will too…

    Happy Monday to you too!

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  2. vickiho

    I also constantly wonder if the differences between Asian parenting and Western-based teaching (which I assume is what you’re reading) will start to surface. I don’t think this tiger mom stuff is the best way, but what do I know? :/

    On Tue, Mar 11, 2014 at 1:36 AM, My Baby Olive Juice

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    1. Jody

      I know, I was actually just discussing this with an Asian friend of mine who has two kids – she says that her parenting style just trickles down from what she picked up from her parents. Which is strict, no nonsense stuff. I guess no way is really the best way, but I’m just trying to find a BALANCED way, you know?

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  3. Valerie

    You know, another article would have told you that you were doing nearly everything right, so don’t worry too much! ;) Everyone’s got different opinions about how to parent and they can’t ALL be right, so you have to just find your own way. Nothing wrong with reading, but be careful that you don’t start judging yourself when you and your little one(s) were happy before your reading. :)

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    1. Jody

      I have got to find that article out there that says i’m doing everything right, haha! Thanks for the pep talk, I need it!

      Thank you for stopping by!!

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      1. Valerie

        Well, haha, I mean that you will read lots of places different opinions and takes on parenting, so overall you could be doing it right by many people’s standards. But that’s the thing – it’s all just people’s views. Do what works for you and your kid(s). xo
        I was quite stressed out about my parenting skills when my first-born was a few years old because of all that I read. So much of it was contradictive and I couldn’t figure out the “right” way! Then, as she got older and I had another child, I slowly realized that those parenting books were affecting my confidence so I ditched them!! ;) I talk to others whose opinions I trust but I do NOT read parenting articles or books (I have a 2 1/2 year old now).

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