I wanted to share some truly, stunning images that Michelle of Mishina Photo was able to capture of the MBOJ Beginner Workshops at The Assembly Cafe in West Hollywood, California, which happened a couple of weeks back.
The Assembly is such a clean, bright space that was the perfect spot for our intimate class. I have to be honest, it’s sometimes difficult to balance the number of students I want to have in each workshop – while it’s more efficient to have a large classroom to teach, I find that if I limit the number of students who attend each workshop, I am able to have more one on one time with each person, which makes me a better teacher, and hopefully makes learning more fun for them.
This stunning floral installation was spearheaded by Emblem Flowers – who without a doubt nailed it. I have never had an easier or more inspiring time working with a florist…..she truly goes above and beyond. One wall was decorated with lush greenery and my favorite bougainvillea, while the other was draped with bittersweet vines. How gorgeous are they?
My students were kind of the best…I’m not going to lie, this group was fun and chatty, and I had such a blast working with them. They all kind of made friends with each other too, which to me, is the best thing ever. I’ve always found that the Calligraphy community is really helpful and welcoming, so I’m really glad to be able to foster that spirit in my workshops, too.
I came across this saying a little while ago, and I had to write it out. I think that more than wanting to write it out, I wanted to live it. The thought of someone knowing your heart so well that you could just sit there, next to each other, in silence and be understood…well, isn’t that just comforting?
Here is the thing that this saying doesn’t get into, though: in order for someone to understand you to this extent (or, to be part of a relationship where you can mutually offer this to each other), you first need to communicate, and you need to connect. I think for a long time I took this “connection” thing for granted. I believed that it should come like it does in movies: an effortless love at first sight that transcends time. And admittedly, when I got into the tougher (not so romantic) moments of marriage, I wondered what the hell was wrong. Shouldn’t he know what I needed, or what I was trying to say? Haven’t we known each other for long enough that we could have that unspoken connection? Haven’t we talked enough about our hopes and dreams?
The thing I never took into account was that people change. People change a lot. All that time looking into each others eyes and pouring out your souls to each other in your early 20s, while great, might not apply to the mid-30s-new-parent-can’t-stay-up-past-midnight new you who you’ve become. If you’re banking on past information about your spouse to stay up to date, loving, and connected – and wondering why it’s not working, it might just be because it’s not enough.
So if there is one thing that you can do today to work on your marriage (and it is work) it’s to talk to your partner. And it doesn’t count if you’re discussing the household to-do list, or the kids schedules. If you want to connect you’re going to have to push all that noise aside, and just talk about your future, your goals, and hopes and fears. I know that it might seem daunting, or tiring, or the last thing you might have time for – but it’s important, especially if you do want to understand each other, even in silence.
Hey you guys! I’m going to be hosting another Modern Calligraphy 101 Workshop at The Showroom Pasadena on October 25th, 2015! I have some super awesome people collaborating with me on this one – Emblem Flowers is going to be bringing her awesome floral game to the space, and Home Brewed Bar and The Pie Hole Los Angeles will be providing treats for you guys during class.
This is going to be my last class for 2015, but I’m working on 2016 dates already, and also considering hosting an Intermediate class as well, since that’s been asked a lot recently.
Spaces are limited, so if you’re interested in signing up, please do so over here!
Here is a little sneak peek of the last workshop I had last weekend at The Assembly…. I can’t wait to show you more pictures! Thank you once again to Emblem Flowers for just making my floral dreams come true…..
**EDIT – SOLD OUT! You guys, this class sold out in under an hour! Thank you so much for your support, I’ll be sending out new dates for 2016 soon!**
I am unsure how it’s already Monday again (and almost October, what.) – but I just want to reassure you that You Can Do This. And just in case you needed a little reminder, here is a free brush lettered desktop wallpaper just for you – you can download this baby right here.
So here we are, about a month and a half into it, and can I please just say what a stress bucket this task has been. Yeah, you know – HGTV makes it look really fun and really inspiring – but I’ve realized they leave out 99% of the awful parts of home reno just because it won’t make good TV. Parts such as searching for a tiling bead for your bath (huh? What is that?) or choosing grout color. Hey, how about sanded versus non sanded grout? Or the part where you just want to kick your contractor because communication is just lacking? Every. Single. Day.
It’s taken this long for us to start seeing things coming together. With a home as old as ours (built in the 1940s!) you’re bound to have lots of surprises when you start demolition; things that we had to work around, and sometimes even completely change the design. All these changes also affect your budget, which is a real bummer. In light of all of this, you really have to use your imagination and stay optimistic. We’re in the thick of it right now – all the old stuff is gone, and we’re putting in new windows and doors and we’ve done all the stuff in the walls. Now all that’s left are the cosmetic things (cabinets, appliances, flooring and tiling) so I’m hoping that it at least looks a little less abysmal when I visit.
Here are some photos of where we’re currently at:
These pictures might not look like much right now, but you guys, I can finally see the light of the end of the tunnel. Things are starting to take shape, and I can’t wait to be done with this project (and share pictures with you!) hopefully by the end of November.
A few of you who have been following my blog for a while know that my husband travels for work quite a bit – specifically because he’s been doing an international EMBA program as well as working full time for the past 2.5 years. This past month, he was gone for a whopping 21 days total. He finally got back on Saturday, and it was by far the longest stretch he’s ever been gone for. We missed him so, so much.
This past weekend was spent just us as our unit, reconnecting and spending time with each other. It was perfect, because Olive was just so excited to be with her dad again. And, Patrick was so excited to be with her that he took her for a huge surprise…..she got to meet her favorite Disney Princesses at Disneyland!
I remember when I started this blog, I used to (no-so-secretly) be upset when he left . I thought of it being a time that he had “to himself”. I remember focusing so much on how difficult Motherhood is, that I never really thought to wonder if this new Fatherhood was challenging for him, as well. While my world was newly consumed with just-being-mom, I never considered that he needed to learn how to balance his work, and his home life, too.
I’m not really sure I have a point to this post, like I usually do. I just wanted to take this time to publicly acknowledge all the dads out there. The dads who work hard during the day, then come home and are present with their families. The dads who are tired, but still show up and are awesome husbands and fathers. Thank you for being so great.
Olive has been helping around the house since she was a little younger; she helps feed the dog and sometimes she loads the washing machine with her dirty clothes, but it’s mostly because in the beginning, it was a novelty. “Helping mama” was a fun game that she liked to play….not so much anymore. She now has her own toys she wants to play with and her own agenda, so helping me isn’t really something she wants to do these days.
But she really has to learn. I know, I know, she isn’t even 3 yet. I’m sure my parents would tell me that I’m being mean for making her pull her weight around the house. (Sorry mom!) It isn’t really about lightening my load, or helping me at all (because lets be real guys, it would actually be easier and quicker for me to do it myself), it’s more about instilling the idea that she needs to do her part to keep the household running. The hope is by the time she’s off to college, she’ll have enough….housekeeping skills to not live in filth.
I made Olive a Chore Chart that I’ve put up in our house – she needs to do her chores at least once a day and at the end of the week, she gets a prize (currently, our prize is ONE jellybean – works like a charm). It’s a very new concept, and we’re still getting the hang of it, but I hope that soon this will become routine, instead of needing a chart. Or nagging.
In case you were thinking of doing the same, here is the downloadable version of the Chore Chart, just because. You know. Share the love. (And the housework) You can fill in different kinds of chores on the blank lines, and the child’s name on the top, as well. If you laminate the paper, you’d have a great reusable chart that can be used with dry erase markers!
What are your thoughts? Do you have an opinion on this? Is it mean that I’m making her do some housework? Let me know, I’d love to hear.
So happy to share my latest logo design for Jen of Love Is Where You Are! Jen emailed me looking for a logo for her blog, and she knew exactly what she wanted – a mixture of fonts and handlettering, brush calligraphy, and to honor the love of her little dog, a silhouette of a daushund.
I think one of the more challenging things for me is matching fonts with my own hand lettering – it’s different for every project, and based on the clients inspiration. I have to say, the more I do this though, the more comfortable I get with it – and I kind of love how it turned out this time. And I’m kind of falling in love with that gold, glitter daushund that I drew. (Yes, I drew that. It was nuts.)
Almost a year and a half ago, I wrote a post about my favorite moment of the day. A lot has changed since then – we’re both older (I’m just more worn out, really, hah) so the rhythm of our day is totally different. She’s now only on 1 nap a day, so our day is filled with activities – there are a lot of favorite moments to choose from. I have to admit, I recently have been feeling super guilty about taking her to run errands for either work or the home renovation. So when I can, I try and take her out to do things that she loves to do, like going to the museum, the splash pad, or riding the trolley at The Americana.
While having an almost 3 year old is really (mostly) so much fun, I think my favorite moment of the day is the time right before we put her to bed. We gather together as a family and read stories that we’ve borrowed from the library that week, and we put everything aside to just be with one another without distraction. Olive has never really been a big cuddler (she gets that from my husband *side eye*) , so being able to snuggle up to her and smell her head for a good 30 minutes is kind of a dream. I hope this will be a nightly routine that we can keep up for a good long time.
What is your favorite moment of the day with your kid? Tell me, I’d love to hear.