Do you remember when we were little, and the concept of “recycling” or “saving the planet” was relatively new? And the media was telling you that if you wanted to have resources for your children, or your childrens’ children, that you really need to watch what you do to our planet?
If I’m being honest, all that stuff was a lot of white noise to me. I knew it was the right thing to do, but I never really thought it was a big deal. I was never wasteful, but I wasn’t too conscious of what I was using, either.
This intense drought we’ve been having in California has really been a huge eye opener for me. Water reserves have dried up, the trees and grasses are seriously struggling. All of the water fountains in our neighborhood have been turned off – and every time Olive looks at them, she is so sad that they aren’t working anymore. She looks at me and asks why the water is “broken”.
It makes me sad to think that my daughter might not be able to enjoy the things that I did as a child because the world just doesn’t have them anymore. Sorry, kid, no water play for you, because there is no water. Oh, you can’t go to the park because all the trees are dead and the ozone layer is gone so your skin will fry.
So here is my little PSA for the month – please do your part to be nicer to the planet. For our kids, and theirs, too.
The other night, Patrick and I were watching a movie called Neighbors.
It’s basically the story of two new parents coming to terms with the fact that they aren’t young, party types anymore. Oh, that and Zac Efron moves in next door, sans shirt. (Hi, Zac Efron. Meow)
You guys, I still totally have moments when I feel like I’m way too young to have a baby, or to have financial responsibilities. There are times when I forget that I’m not in my twenties anymore. And when people don’t card me when I get a cocktail at the bar, I feel (more than) a little depressed. Oh, then I drink said cocktail-at-bar……and feel hungover for days after.
Getting old is the pits.
But, then….getting older has it’s moments too. Like when you wake up early in the morning to the smell of coffee and it makes you so happy that you can cry. Or when all your bills and taxes are paid and you feel so light and free. Or when you’re in bed at 930pm and all your single friends think you’re crazy. But it feels so good.
My new age has brought me new joys. Sometimes I’m so caught up on what I think i’m missing out on from my past, that I forget to take in the little pleasures of who I have become.
Totally into the Fall Fashion I am seeing everywhere.
And when I mean everywhere, I mean only in stores and online – because in real life, it’s still blistering hot. It’s stupid hot.
So of course, I did what any sane person would do – I went pretend online shopping, and almost purchased a Mommy & Me fall outfit for Olive and I.
I was never really into Moms and their daughters dressing alike before, but as Olive is getting older (and her dress options expand) I’m finding it incredibly hard to resist. And by that, I mean to dress her like me – not the other way around….you’ll never find me in a tutu. EVER.
I’m not sure if this is a common thing, but every time she is able to sing the lyrics to new songs, I’m blown away. But this also means that she’s really picky about what she likes to listen to in the car. She has her very own playlist for car rides – and they are a mixture of childrens songs, disney songs, and broadway.
We’ve been listening to the same playlist for a little more than 6 months now, and ohmygod people I am tired of these songs. I have started to harmonize, rap, and scat along with the songs to keep things interesting, but I’m just going to come out and say it – I HATE MARY AND HER LITTLE LAMB.
I recently hit a “new-music” slump. Perhaps it’s because I think that 95% of new music is terrible (I sound like an old person, don’t I?), or maybe I really don’t get the chance to cruise in my car sans baby much….but I miss that feeling of listening to a new song and obsessing over it.
I recently discovered the “Genres & Moods” section of my Spotify app and I am so happy that I did – instead of incessantly playing Top 40, Spotify curates musics to suit unique moods across all genres. For example, they have playlists called ‘Rainy Day’, ‘After Party At My Crib’, and my personal favorite, “The PMS Playlist”
Here, are my personal recent favorites from Spotify; I’ve added the YouTube videos for you, too.
Hello! It’s been a little while….how have you guys been?
This past week, my best friend Victoria came to visit me from Singapore. Victoria and I have known each other for a long time – we met when we were in grade school and have been inseparable ever since. Even when I moved to the US over a decade ago, we rarely go a week without speaking. She’s been there for all of my huge milestones, and we’ve watched each other evolve through the years – we’ve been together through it all.
When I became a mother, I wasn’t aware that many of my friendships would suffer. And to be honest, a lot of them have. Many of my childless friends have drifted away from me; and the fault isn’t solely theirs. My ability to answer phone calls and text messages has vanished, and going out for a late dinner seems like such an impossible spend of energy. Many a time, my desire to keep in touch is outweighed by the ability to find the right moment to. I know that to some friends, I seem to have vanished off the face of the earth. And so (and rightfully so…) they stop trying, too.
I don’t blame them.
But then sometimes, you meet a friend like Victoria. Or another one of my best friends, Jun. And even though you’re tired, and you’re up to your ears in diapers, and haven’t reached out – they call. They will keep calling. They will make sure that I come up for a breath, to say hello. They still want to tell me about their lives, and they want to hear about my marriage and my child. And they make an effort to get to know my child. For them, I will be eternally grateful.
So often us Moms make the excuse that our pre-kid, childless friendships falter because these friends ‘don’t understand’ how different your life has become. And sometimes, yes, this is the case; and losing (touch with) these friends is often painful. But I have a new view on this: becoming a mother has helped me weed out my weaker friendships – and has really shown me which relationships to focus on, instead of wallowing over the ones I’ve lost.
In the words of Elsa – Let it Go.
Have you lost friendships after having kids? How have you dealt with it? How has becoming a mother changed your friendships? I’d love to hear from you.
I’ve been thinking a lot about discipline lately – this has been somewhat of a new issue that we haven’t really had to deal with before. Olive is now almost 2 years old and recently, she’s been testing her boundaries with us. She knows when she’s not supposed to do certain things, but will do them anyway (slo-o-o-o-wwlly, to see if we’re watching), to test if she can get away with it.
So far, we’ve just been using the “stoop-down-to-her-level-and-speak-sternly” method, which doesn’t always work. I’m thinking it’s time to step it up a notch…but I’m unsure about which methods to try out. Okay, lets be honest. I’m also really lazy and cannot bring myself to read a 200 page book on discipline.
As I progress farther into this Mothering thing I’m realizing that all the early stuff – the caretaking – was tedious and tiring, but it is much simpler than what I’m experiencing now – Active Parenting. It takes consistent engagement, thinking 12 steps ahead of my child, and putting into place systems and foundations for her to become a good human being.
Any input here, moms? How do you set boundaries with your toddler? How do you enforce them? And for moms with younger babies…just enjoy your bundles of snuggles now… you know, before they learn how to say no.
Vince recently launched a Kids line, and it is everything. Vince is one of my all time favorite brands, and if there was ever a line I would relish being matchy-matchy in with Olive…well, Vince would be high on that list.
I had the opportunity to see their collection in person today, and it took my breath away. Even husband was like, ok – I get it – I can see why you want to dress Olive in that. Olive, however, wasn’t too impressed, but honestly it’s because she’s 21 months old and she was more into her cracker than the fashion.
The clothes are all too big for Olive right now (it’s for kids aged 4-14) so right now I’m just browsing…..but hey, she’ll grow into them, right? Right?
A few of my favorite looks, above. Check out more of their Kids line here.
I have been trying to update my photo wall in our home. My tastes have changed ever so slightly since we first moved in, and I really wanted to have the new layout reflect that. I bought these new, brass frames from Crate and Barrel and got rid of our old black ones. We put them up last week, and the room already feels….lighter.
Now all we need to do is decide which pictures we want to put in them.
Here is the problem, though – Olive is growing as such a rapid speed, that every time I put a picture up there, it ends up being so out of date, so soon. But maybe that’s what I’m doing wrong – I shouldn’t be trying to change pictures as soon as they’re old, but rather, I should be cherishing the memories and relishing Olive as a little baby, instead.
Have an amazing weekend ahead.
PS – Putting up frames in a grid sequence can be a real pain in the butt. Not only is it time consuming to put up, but every little house movement makes the pictures shift. This, people, is my secret weapon. You are welcome.
Are you sending your little one to preschool soon?
I have been playing with that idea for a long time now, and like a true Tiger Mom, had Olive placed on a few waiting lists in the neighborhood a while back. Olive has always been extra apprehensive around strangers (young and old, alike) so I do really feel that some additional socialization will be great for her. And if I have to be honest – on days when she’s extremely fussy and throwing tantrums…I cannot wait until she starts school ASAP. However I was informed that we would have to wait for quite a while before we get accepted – spaces rarely open up, so we should expect to be notified after Olive turns two.
Last week, I unexpectedly received a phone call from one of the schools……a space was available, and if we wanted, Olive would be able to start as soon as September! So imagine my surprise (and Patrick’s) when I almost immediately turned them down. I spent all this time wondering if Olive was ready for school, but neglected to pay any attention to whether I was ready to let her go. As it turns out, I’m not. I’m not ready to let her out of my embrace just yet.
So, to moms who have been there – when did you send your little ones to their first day of school? How was it, and how did you know that they (or you!) were ready? And to the moms who have this coming up…. when are you thinking of sending your kids off?